Sexuality without expiration date
For many, being a woman for 50 means beinginvisible, do not get approving views when you go in elegant attire to a restaurant. Passers-by look through these women, and they feel insecure. They begin to convince themselves that their best years are already behind, because in our world, beauty is often equated to adolescence. Nevertheless, the views of society on women at the age of gradually change, and it becomes obvious that a woman can be sexy, beautiful, intelligent, stylish, even if she is 50, 70 or 100 years old.
Huffington Post decided to take a photo shoot with11 very attractive women between the ages of 48 to 67 years. Some of them survived cancer, some already raise grandchildren, one of them is married, and some do not. But they have one thing in common: none of them looks like a wrinkled blue stocking. Now they feel more comfortable in their body than ever. Photographers asked them to put on what they seem to be sexy to, and tell what it means for them now to be sexual compared to how it felt in their youth. We received amazing photos, and none of them was retouched.
Cheryl Roberts, 48 years old: "When I was twenty-odd and I worked as a model, I was insecure and easily succumbed to someone else's opinion. I did not have personality. I wore what was fashionable, did what other girls did at my age, and did my best to please others. I had no idea of my inner strength or sexuality.
The biggest difference is the girl I was in20 years, from the woman I am now, at 48, that now I really do not give a damn what people think of me that do not know me. The perception of others does not concern me. I do not want to merge with them and match. So I adore selling vintage items in my IndigoStyle Vintage store. It is ideal for forming personal style and self-expression. Sexuality stems from my self-confidence, a smile and acceptance of myself. Without fear of exploring, I know that I am perfectly imperfect, with my shortcomings. "
Anna Rosenberg, 59 years old: "Maybe as a child of the 1960s, I should have been more like a hippie ... But somehow it passed me by. I was focused on studying, and my free time was occupied by riding and cleaning the stables. My usual attire was a flannel shirt, overalls and boots. I thought sexuality was about others. I was as if asexual and hid inside myself even the most violent feelings. And now I find it funny when I understand that when I was 20 years old, when the world would accept my sexuality and playfulness, I was closed, and now, when the society is still hard to take sexual women in their teens, I blossomed. For me, being sexy means being seductive and creative. It is wonderful".
Mary Ann Holland, 58 years old: "It is unlikely that women really appreciate their beauty and sexuality until they reach maturity. After 50, I felt much sexier than when I was over 20. When I was 20-odd years old, I compared myself with others and with the standards that dictated fashion magazines. This is very pressing! With age comes the confidence in yourself and the understanding that not the body, but the brain is our sexiest part! No one but me tells me what it takes to be sexy. My path determined how I feel now. I am a wife, mother, grandmother and a man who defeated cancer (and suffered a mastectomy). This awareness of my own sexuality after 50 years is a gift that I will appreciate every next decade. I am free to be myself! ".
Shannon Bradley-Collier, 50 years old: "After 50 years I discovered that I just say yes more often, and from this I feel beautiful, bright, sexy and alive. "Do you want to help in the camp of Syrian refugees on Lesbos in Greece?" - "Yes." "Would you like to take an introductory course on dancing on the pole?" - "Yes." "Do you want to go on a blind date with your husband, pretending that you are not familiar?" - "Write me down!"
When I was 20 with a little, I was worried,that is not smart enough, skater, sexy, to say "yes" to all those things I wanted to try. I also thought that it should be better in terms of orgasms. I was sure that they had my C-grade. In 50 years I just do not have the time and energy for this nonsense. I accept everything as it arrives, so to speak. "Can you look in the mirror and fall in love with what you see there, such as it is today?" - "Yes. And for that I'm grateful. ""
Barbara Rabin, 67 years old: "Sexuality is self-confidence. This is a feeling of comfort in your body. This is when you look in the mirror and you like what you see there. Someone once told me that women of age can not wear long hair. And most women do not wear them at my age. But I like long flowing hair, and for me it's sexy. You must have a feeling that you like what you see, and you are doing well. When I was 20, I was only thinking about a career. Now my husband is dead, and I suffered cancer. I'm much stronger now. And the power is sexy. "
Pamela Madsen, 52 years old: "When I was 20 with something, I wanted to be invisible sexually, because I did not trust my attitude to my own body. I was afraid to be in sight. Now I'm over 50, and try not to look at me! I'm not afraid of being seen as a sexy woman, because sexuality has turned from fear into strength and pleasure! At 50 I trust my yes and no. It took several decades, but now my sexuality has become my friend. "
Sandra la Morgez, 59 years old: "When I was about 20, my sexuality depended entirely on how I look. I had a clear idea of how a sexy woman behaves, what she says, how she looks and what she feels, and I spent a huge amount of effort trying to project this image onto other people. But now, after 50, I have a completely different view, that is, I do not believe that I should behave attractively, sexually, freely, because I know that I already fall under all these characteristics.
Love and sexual partners come and go. That is life. But I stay, and this means that my sexuality, individuality and self-esteem should first of all come from within. Awareness of this allowed me to let go of most of the anxiety about my sexuality, because I no longer need to worry about all the unknown variables that people use when comparing and evaluating me. Instead, I can now focus on what makes me happy, full, loving, and when I meet other people who are attracted to these positive qualities, it brings a really cool and life-affirming experience. "
April Johnson, 58 years old: "Beauty means attraction for me. And what are they - attractive people? Caring, loving, kind, attentive. These things create an attraction that turns your inner beauty into an outer beauty. When I was 20, being sexy meant dressing in a certain way to attract the opposite sex, and doing what I thought men considered attractive. Now being sexy after 50 is a feeling .... Not the clothes I wear. Clothes do not define me. This I determine what to wear. I feel how wonderful it is to be myself! Being sexual for me means giving pleasure and making yourself happy. Happiness is transferred to others! It's a great way to make the world happier! "
Robin Hoffman, 50 years old: "Sexuality at 21 and at 50 years old for me is not yet fully traversed. I used to evaluate how my ass looks like in boiled jeans, and now in yoga pants, but I still discover that this concept is more concerned with where I am, and not with that, whether the one who looks at me a pretty rugby player on Friday night. I found an inner compass that emits strength and love and absorbs all self-displeasure and criticism. For me to be sexy in 50 years is to disperse all the shadows and radiate the inner light that is in each of us. It is an ode to the beauty of the soul, instead of glorifying asses and tits. The bodies are beautiful, but the inner light is much more beautiful. "
Felice Gómez-Gregory, 50 years old: "When I was 25, being sexual was the stage of knowing. My ideas were determined by external influences (magazines, books, television), men and basically the "city of women" in which I grew up, especially my mother. Now, when I'm 50, being sexy means cherishing my inner beauty and taking care of external beauty. When a woman feels spiritual and physical strength, is confident in herself and truly knows what she is worth, loves the people around her, be and feel sexually easy! The next decade I perceive as a new journey in life, in which the four most important things are to live, love, dance and believe! "
Constance Bordman, 57 years old: "Feeling sexy now - it's much less about the body. All the nonsense you were worried about when you were young, things related to perception are the truth of stupidity. Some time ago, when I was just 50, it was hard for me to feel sexy. Changes in the body come suddenly. But now I know that sex is really fun and that you do not have to constantly think about how you look. It was an adaptation to accepting the fact that my body will never be the same as before. But I seem to have already experienced this moment.