How to finish a relationship?
It often happens that the relationship between a boy and a girl, a man and a woman come to a dead end. Especially if the couple is not bound by family ties. How to properly finish the relationship, bringing them to a reasonable limit, how to avoid scandals and mutual accusations at parting, we will tell in this article. For a man or a woman, it will be easier to do this by following a few simple tips. Here are some of them.
Set time "X"
Determine the exact date and time of your separation when you tell your partner everything. Do not try to transfer! This will eliminate undue hesitation and doubt. If decided, so do it. According to the psychologists, if the person already knows the exact date of the end of the relationship, he calms down. Thus, concentration and a certain detachment of actions are achieved.
Choosing the right place
To talk about the end of a relationship, you must choose a neutral territory. Well suited cafe, shop, exhibition - almost any crowded place where you will be in sight. So your partner will not be able to vent your emotions.A lonely place, on the contrary, will play in this plan against you, as it is sometimes unsafe to find yourself in a confined space with an angry or hysterical person.
Without any preparation
Act without preparing a partner in advance, without phrases like: “we need to talk.” Otherwise, your former "half" will be able to build a defense and prepare certain undeniable arguments in favor of your co-existence. Be as confident in yourself and your decision. Remember that the person leaving leaves feels much better than the one leaving. Therefore, do not allow her (or him) to utter the phrase: no, I throw you!
If one of the former partners is still in love, then when parting he goes through several stages of "transformation": denial, anger, an attempt to enter into a contract, depression and, finally, the acceptance of fact. During the first - try to stand firmly on your own. In the period of anger, it is better to turn around and leave, so that you do not start yourself. During the third phase - hide underground, do not respond to calls (or even better to leave at all). The stage of trying to reach an agreement is the most dangerous, since your former partner will try to keep you in full swing.
Wait until the fifth stage - the conclusion of a truce and acceptance of the fact of separation. Here, the question of how men and women end a relationship comes to its logical outcome. After this, normal friendships are possible with the former partner, of course, if both parties want it.